Tuesday, June 4, 2013


 In my new book co-authored with Brian Tracy, World #1 Personal Development Coach,Consultant and trainer; There is a “Law of Control” that says you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life. It also says that you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of any part of your life.
Psychologists call this “Locus of Control Theory.” They say that each person feels that their life is controlled by either internal or external factors. A person with an internal locus of control feels that he or she is in charge and is making the decisions that determine the direction of his or her life.
The person with an external locus of control, on the other hand, feels that others are in charge, and that he or she is controlled by external factors and influences about which he can do very little. He often feels that his life is controlled by his boss, his bills, his childhood experiences, and his current marriage or relationship.
Having an internal or an external locus of control is the difference between feeling empowered and positive or powerless and negative. And both are states of mind over which you have considerable control. 

In order to be happy and to enjoy high levels of self-confidence, you have to organize your life in such a way that you feel very much in control of what happens to you. And nowhere is this more important than in your ability to get the things you want through others.
You need the help of other people to accomplish almost anything. To accomplish anything worthwhile, you need the help of lots and lots of other people. To achieve your full potential as a human being, you need to consciously structure your entire life so that you are surrounded by harmonious, cooperative relationships. Your job is to be able to draw upon the organized efforts of many people to help move you in the direction that you want to go.
You really have no choice but to become very good in your ability to deal effectively with others. This feeling of self-efficacy, being competent and successful with others, is essential to your feelings of self-esteem and personal power. 
"Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows." Says ;Ben Stein    
Indeed Cooperation is the key to success in life.