LAW OF CONTROL

 In my new book co-authored with Brian Tracy, World #1 Personal Development Coach,Consultant and trainer; There is a “Law of Control” that says you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life. It also says that you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of any part of your life.

Psychologists call this “Locus of Control Theory.” They say that each person feels that their life is controlled by either internal or external factors. A person with an internal locus of control feels that he or she is in charge and is making the decisions that determine the direction of his or her life.
The person with an external locus of control, on the other hand, feels that others are in charge, and that he or she is controlled by external factors and influences about which he can do very little. He often feels that his life is controlled by his boss, his bills, his childhood experiences, and his current marriage or relationship.

Having an internal or an external locus of control is the difference between feeling empowered and positive or powerless and negative. And both are states of mind over which you have considerable control. 

In order to be happy and to enjoy high levels of self-confidence, you have to organize your life in such a way that you feel very much in control of what happens to you. And nowhere is this more important than in your ability to get the things you want through others.
You need the help of other people to accomplish almost anything. To accomplish anything worthwhile, you need the help of lots and lots of other people. To achieve your full potential as a human being, you need to consciously structure your entire life so that you are surrounded by harmonious, cooperative relationships. Your job is to be able to draw upon the organized efforts of many people to help move you in the direction that you want to go.
You really have no choice but to become very good in your ability to deal effectively with others. This feeling of self-efficacy, being competent and successful with others, is essential to your feelings of self-esteem and personal power. 
"Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows." Says ;Ben Stein    
Indeed Cooperation is the key to success in life. 

KICKSTART YOUR BEST LIFE!

The word Kick-start is best explained as “to start a motorcycle” by means of a kick-starter-a downward kick on a pedal which could also mean to make something active, functional or productive again.

A mail I received recently from Robin Sharma inspired this piece that was also inspired by a tweet that he received; “Does all this leadership and success material really work?  What was Robin’s response; nothing works (no book+ online course + event+ idea) until you make the time and commitment to DO THE WORK.

Ultra successful people are just uncommonly skilled at execution. And we all can get to this place via daily practice “ asserts Robin Sharma.

Am positive every new day is a privilege for us all to pedal down-making something active or productive again.

First, I commit time towards staying fit. There’s an article of mine Business Day published titled “Fit and focused” which is also on my blog. Getting up come rain or shine to exercise is a lifestyle for me. Exercising-building fitness into my daily schedule stretches my body and leaves me with huge benefits during the day. One day I recall using the cyclers at my health club and an elderly lady came to use the machine beside me asking that I be her accountability partner for the day.

During my workout on that machine I recall getting tired, but the excitement that there was someone beside me motivated me to take it further.

Next, in Robin Sharma’s Book “The Leader Who Had No Title” he encourages building value everyday; People do business with people they trust and those who make them feel special. Creating a ritual that ensures you reach out to three (3) possible or current customers everyday. The more people you help, the more profits you’ll see. Do something to help them close in on their greatest dream. They’ll soon help you close in on yours.

Thirdly, schedule family time. It was David Lee who said; “I want to make sure I’m working to live instead of living to work.

Lastly, take stock and charge forward. There are things, situations that you didn’t finish yesterday, last week, month or year. You need to review them if they are worth continuing. Check why you didn’t win and what you can do to win today. The last lap is to work on what was a success so as to experience success with it again.

Life is too short to start with broken pieces of yesterday; it will definitely destroy your wonderful today and ruin your great tomorrow.

Go Kick-Start Your Best Life!

VITAL VIEW

Economist Vilfredo Pareto of Italian descent that propounded what is called “Pareto Principle” in 1895 noticed that people in his society seemed to divide naturally into what he called “Vital View.” The English dictionary defines the word vital as a living organism performing an essential function in the living body while view on the other hand means the act of looking, seeing, observing or outward appearance. When fused together “Vital View” means an essential function in the living body seeing or observing-outward appearance. Vilfredo later discovered that virtually all-economic activity was subject to this principle as well. The principle says that 20percent of your activities will account for 80percent of your results, 20% of your activities will account for 80% of your sales or successes; which would also mean 20% of your tasks will account for 80% of the value of what you do, and so on. This automatically means if you have a list of ten items to do, two of those items will turn out to be worth five or ten times or more than the other eight items put together. Richard Koch researched further which is called a “power law” today and also corresponds to the pattern that 80% of wealth and income went to 20% of the income earners, that 50% belong to 5% of earners, and so on. One tilt that he added to it during “The Progress Conference in South Africa” and that a small proportion of our time accounted for most of our valuable output, and even our happiness. That suggested…time management was beside the point, and that people needed a time revolution-we all needed to change our lives to focus on the best moments and times and make those the core of our lives. Richard asserted further, that people should think about small chunks of time-this week, this year, the years during their whole lives-that have given them more happiness than most of the rest of their time. These he calls “happiness islands” The 80/20 principle says that it is always possible to do something much better with existing resources, or with fewer resources. Progress always comes from a small number of people and teams who demonstrate that the ceiling of previous performance can become the floor for everyone.

REWARDS RECOGNITION AND CELEBRATION

Rewards-plural of reward defined as a thing given in recognition of service, effort, or achievement. Recognition on the other hand is defined as the action or process-identification of a thing or person from previous encounters or knowledge. While Celebration is defined as action of marking one’s pleasure at an important event or occasion by engaging in enjoyable, typically social activity. An Australian, Adam Smith made history at the 77th Masters golf tournament at the Augusta National Golf Club which earned him “The Green Jacket” considered to be the greatest individual award, and the most coveted prize in the world of golf. Green is the color of self-respect and well-being or balance. It could also represent learning, growth and harmony. Young 32year old Adam Scott won 2013 edition of the Masters Golf Tournament that earned him The Green Jacket… Is perhaps the greatest external motivator for driving superior performance, most pursued piece of clothing for any professional golfer. The green Jacket-means that you are part of an ultra-exclusive community for life. It can only be earned by overcoming world-class competition. Guarantees you a very special place in the history books and is a symbol of excellence, victory and immortality. In the words of Gary Ryan Blair: “A reward is an extrinsic symbol for the enforcement and celebration of intrinsic values.” He further asserts Goals are natural value generators, often because of what you learn and become en route to their achievement. But having a reward that honors and symbolizes that achievement is a powerful motivator for continued progress and performance excellence. If you want to improve your performance results, increase innovation to gain and sustain competitive advantages, create an environment that fosters excellence and ethical behavior then you must make rewards and recognition standard protocol. Whether it’s a war hero receiving a Medal of Honor, an Olympic athlete winning a Gold Medal, an author being granted a Pulitzer Prize, a martial artist earning a Black-Belt, or a young child winning a trophy for a local spelling bee-rewards and recognition promote and define excellence. Every year as someone receives some reward, or recognition I look forward to celebrating a new year 16th April, as life is a gift and worth celebrating. Go on and celebrate yourself if no one celebrates, recognizes or rewards you.

FIT AND FOCUSED

The Webster dictionary defines fit as “to conform correctly to the shape or size” while focused is defined as the state of maximum distinctness. Every person or professional who will lead-deploy greatness this New Year needs to first be fit; conform correctly to the shape or size with focus been the state of maximum distinctiveness. So what are you doing to be fit and focused for the New Year? You know when you’re bodily fit, there’s a strong possibility your hundred billion brain cells surely will be fitter. Running once a week wouldn't be a bad exercise gift to your getting fitter for your focus this year. Running helps more than your heart and lungs. Promising brain research shows a strong link between running and a "younger," more nimble brain. Vigorous cardiovascular activity pumps more oxygen-and glucose-rich blood to your noggin. Research reveals Running sparks the growth of fresh nerve cells, called neurogenesis, and new blood vessels, called angiogenesis, says J. Carson Smith, PhD, an assistant professor at the University of Maryland in College Park who studies the role exercise plays in brain function. Walking your way to a healthy heart is also another way to stay fit and focused. Walking is one of the easiest ways to stay fit. You may have a busy life, but try and introduce physical activity in your life. A moderate dose of physical exercise for 30 minutes (if you can’t manage that much, even 15 minutes is okay to begin with) a day is enough to keep you healthy. This form of aerobic fitness can lift your mood, make you physically fit, and improve the quality of your life. Every year I travel to speak, team build, coach & consult around the African continent that I sometimes find myself in a hotel that doesn't

have a gym. Most hotels have staircases so instead of the elevators I walk-up and down the staircases and also pace walk. What if I told you your suitcase can become exercise equipment-the same way you will squat, juggle, mountain climb you can do with your briefcase. Ensure you create time to keep fit and focused this year. You can, you should, and you must. To your success all round